I was thinking about the things that have changed in my life over the years and I went back to a time when I was crazy out my mind. No kidding. I was a mess. I remember driving in my car and my now ex-husband was in the passenger seat going on and on about something or another. He was such a pessimistic person and so unhappy with himself. He made my life miserable. As I was driving I considered running off the road and killing him. Seriously! We were on a bridge, it would of worked. Any way, he was being so degrading and I just had enough. Thank God I realized that if I killed him that I could possibly be my own victim too; that didn't sit right with me. I think that was my defining moment because at that moment I realized that I had to get out of that marriage. There is no telling where I'd be if not for that epiphany. By now you probably would of seen my story on "Snapped." No joke.
My point for this story is that at some point in your life you have to realize what is making you unhappy. I was in a loveless marriage but if I got out it would of meant financial ruins. I realized that my marriage was draining me dry and I had nothing else to give because there was nothing left. I had to say to myself is it worth it? Maybe you're going through a similar thing and you don't know what to do. I had to take stock of my life and make huge decisions that could change my life forever. Don't you think it's time you take stock of your life and figure out what's the cause of your unhappiness. It could change your life tremendously. It might not be your marriage, it could be your job, a friendship, an unbearable situation, a death of a loved one, or your children. You owe it to yourself to find your joy again.
When you realize the cause of your unhappiness then you have to decide what your next course of action is. For me it was easy but for you it might be harder and you may have to really dig deep. I knew what was making me unhappy and I knew what I had to do. I chose to leave but you have to choose what's best for you.
When I got my divorce I remember feeling so free and thankful. It was so hard going through the divorce but when it was over, baby, I celebrated. When you get over, rid of, or through that thing that causes you unhappiness make sure you celebrate. I'm serious. Have a party, even if it's for one person. Listen. I've had many nights of just me, candle lights, and a glass of wine. Let me tell you, I enjoyed every moment.
My point for this story is that at some point in your life you have to realize what is making you unhappy. I was in a loveless marriage but if I got out it would of meant financial ruins. I realized that my marriage was draining me dry and I had nothing else to give because there was nothing left. I had to say to myself is it worth it? Maybe you're going through a similar thing and you don't know what to do. I had to take stock of my life and make huge decisions that could change my life forever. Don't you think it's time you take stock of your life and figure out what's the cause of your unhappiness. It could change your life tremendously. It might not be your marriage, it could be your job, a friendship, an unbearable situation, a death of a loved one, or your children. You owe it to yourself to find your joy again.
When you realize the cause of your unhappiness then you have to decide what your next course of action is. For me it was easy but for you it might be harder and you may have to really dig deep. I knew what was making me unhappy and I knew what I had to do. I chose to leave but you have to choose what's best for you.
When I got my divorce I remember feeling so free and thankful. It was so hard going through the divorce but when it was over, baby, I celebrated. When you get over, rid of, or through that thing that causes you unhappiness make sure you celebrate. I'm serious. Have a party, even if it's for one person. Listen. I've had many nights of just me, candle lights, and a glass of wine. Let me tell you, I enjoyed every moment.
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