Communication can be the straw that breaks the camels back or the bridge that brings two islands together. People always talk about the difference between men and woman when it comes to communication. Woman are always complaining that men don’t listen and men are always complaining that woman are always complaining. Well, I had a situation with my fiance (I like that word) and it was a communication issue. I felt like he was pulling away from me and we no longer had that connection we once shared. So I had to figure out a way to tell him without him feeling like I was accusing him of some great wrong because I didn't want him to zone out on me. You know Ladies; men tend to close down when it comes to personal issues in the relationship, they completely don’t want to talk about it. We as woman tend to go straight to the problem and tell them how they can fix it. Notice I said “tell” ladies. Not good. So I decided to approach the situation a little differently; out of a place of love of course. I told him how much I missed the passion we shared and the loving connection we once had. Then I expressed my desire to share that with him again. Let’s just say that things are back on track –our two islands have a connecting bridge- plus we avoided a situation that could of turned very ugly.
So if you’re fighting with your significant other find creative ways to express your discontent that aren't hostile or offensive; instead do it out of a place of love. Going the other route could be the straw that broke the camels back and you could find yourself all alone; unless that’s what you want. In that case, tarry on!
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