The Road Less Travelled

Written by Philessa Jenkins aka Lady PJ

10/6/2013 2:04:45 PM

Title: The Road Less Travelled

     I’ve learned a very important lesson that I want to share with you; it concerns the road less travelled.  So many people don’t want to face the hard times in life but it’s through the hard times that we learn or should I say develop our strength.  I had to meditate on this aspect of life but my conclusion is that you can’t just walk away from the storm, sometimes you have to go through it or fight through it. 

     You can go around the storm, under it, or avoid it all together but for how long?  You see, storms tend to come back around because you didn’t handle them appropriately in the beginning.  Your marriage is in shambles because you didn’t start off with a solid foundation (love, patients, and understanding).  You don’t have any friends because you don’t know how to be a friend (you have to learn to give of yourself in order to get something from someone else).   You want to be blessed but you refuse to bless others.  Your life is on a down slope because you can no longer see the rainbow (you have love at home, you have a good family, everyone is healthy, you have a job, and you can afford to feed your family).  A love one died but you can’t get past their death thus you can no longer see your life without them in it (you lose touch with reality).  There are so many circumstances, so many different situations, but you have to find a way to get through these trials and tribulations.  Realize that there’s a lesson to be learned somewhere in there or there’s a triumph on the path ahead of you.  Don’t stop now because the road is too hard; keep going until you find that clear path.

     A storm brings with it destruction, pain, loss and who wants to know or feel that?   But!  If you never experience loss or pain how can you know true joy or happiness?  How do you know when you’ve reached true happiness for you?  Pause for a second and let that sink in then read on. 

     Happiness is different for everybody and you’re no different.  What makes you happy may not affect me at all and the other way around.  In order to actualize happiness you must first see yourself being happy.   Don’t let others dictate your happiness, because it’s your happiness.  Please, remember this.

     We learn to appreciate life from the ruins.  Have you ever thought about that?  It’s by finding what you don’t want in your life that you understand and appreciate what you need in your life; or what you can do without.  In a storm you’re forced to see the destruction because it’s right there in front of you.  Most people will shut down and do nothing.  They stay within the confines of the ruins and can no longer see the sunshine.  What a lesson for me, let me tell you.

     Maybe you’re going through something right now and if so, just go through it; feel what you have to feel.  Stop worrying about what people will say and do what’s best for you.  Be brave and take the road less travelled; go through the storm and face the ruins.   It’s okay to hurt, to have pain, to cry, and to feel all of these things, but when you’re done pick yourself back up and move on.  That’s the key to survival; don’t stand in the ruins, find a clear path to happiness.  It could be right around the corner or right next door to you.  I’m a venter and I vent.  Honey, I get it all out so I can move on; that works for me but you have to find what works for you.  I’ve been knocked down a lot but I always pull myself back up.  It’s not always easy but I do it because the alternative is not alright with me.

     It’s your girl Lady PJ and information is power so be informed.  Remember that strength comes from within and you have it already inside you so be brave.  Much love to you all.