Questioning life?

 Questioning life?

Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

Thursday, April 17, 2014

    A friend of mine is going through a very rough time and is questioning her life.  I think at some point we all come to this very unsettling question; we all must think what if we did it different?  My thought to her was to not linger on what cannot be changed. You remember the serenity prayer?  It reads…

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

     Boy, is this an easy thing to say but then we all at some point or another take a look backwards at where we've been.  Unfortunately, the end result is always, "it cannot be changed."  I’ve been doing that myself recently and talking to her really made me realize my mistake. 

     Don't dwell on what you did or did not do because in actuality it doesn't really matter what you didn't do or what you did because it's all in the past.  If you want to change your life then you can only change it in the present, the now. It has taken me a really long time to come to that conclusion.  I know!

     I’m a very reflective person and I like to sit down and think things over before coming to an enlightened conclusion.  I exhaust all other possibilities because the options can sometimes be infinite.  In the end I always try to find a solution that I can live with today as well as tomorrow.  It always fits in with my personality and my character, but I’m not always right.  I’m wise enough to know this and accept it.

     When I want to change something in my life that displeases me, I just change it.  I do what I can and I try not to worry so much about what I cannot do.  There's this saying that, “A steady horse can win the race if he keeps a steady pace."

     Figure out what you want from life and set a course to get there and remember this is your life.  If you don't get to where you want to be in life at least enjoy the ride knowing that you gave your all then in the end that knowledge should give you peace.  I just think that it’s useless to beat yourself up over something you have no control over and no matter how much you go through it the end result will be the same.

     If you too are questioning your life; I’m saying enjoy your present but always plan for your future and find a way to let your past go.  It’s your girl, Lady PJ, saying “much love to all of you and enjoy your weekend by doing something different for a change.” 

    

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