Darren Wilson resigns

Darren Wilson resigns

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

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11/30/2014 2:44:22 PM

     It’s my belief that Officer Darren Wilson, of the Ferguson Police Department, should have turned in his resignation a long time ago but especially after his interview when he stated “that his conscience is clear after shooting an unarmed man (Michael Brown).”  He stated that, “he’s in fear of his life.”  How do you think Michael Brown felt?

     I don’t understand how you can say that you had to shoot an unarmed man.  The Officer could have rolled his window up and stayed in his car but instead he gave chase and now he has blood on his hands.  You don’t chase a victim that you’re afraid of; it just doesn’t happen.  The fact is you wait for back up.  Instead he made a decision to chase down Michael Brown and now he’s dead.

     Let me state that I do not condone the violence in Ferguson, Missouri but I can understand the People of Ferguson Missouri’s frustration.  Please stop the violence and the destruction of property.  It’s not doing anybody any good.  Unfortunately, you’ll have to wake up and realize the devastation you’ve created around you and in your own communities. We need peace and a new plan to fight this injustice that keeps on happening between black people and the police.  We can’t do that if you’re creating more and more violence.

     I’m your girl Lady PJ; much love to you all and remember that information is power so be informed.

#LadyPJ; #PhilessaHooks; #PhilessaJenkins; #DarrenWilson; #MichaelBrown

Kanye and Kim West

Kanye and Kim West

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

11/30/2014 2:08:05 PM

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     Let me just say that, “Kanye West and Kim Kardashian West are the worst couple to be together,” in my opinion.  Let me tell you why.  He’s a very private person and she’s an attention whore; she loves attention.  She has to keep the lime light on her because that’s how they (the Kardashian family) keep their empire in tack.  It’s just business for her!   Unfortunately, He wants a very classy high end trophy wife and she’s messing up that image.

     I don’t see this couple staying together unless he bends because he has to understand that she’s the product for her family business.  If she doesn’t do the outlandish things she does to keep the business going it doesn’t make the profits.  In the same token she has to let her husband know ahead of time before she does a nude shoot because he might not want his wife’s goods displayed for the whole world to see.  I’m just saying!

  I think it’s time for the both of them to put North West first and remember that one day she might read her parents story and want to know more about their relationship.  Let’s hope she doesn’t get hold of her mother’s nude picture.  Ouch!

I’m Lady PJ much love to you all and have a very blessed day; remember that information is power so be informed.

#LadyPJ; #PhilessaJenkins; #PhilessaHooks; #blogger; #KimandKanyeWest

Is faithfulness a dead concept? What do you think…?

Is faithfulness a dead concept? What do you think…?

Written by Lady PJ

Aka Philessa Hooks Jenkins

All Rights Reserved

11/7/2014 6:46:30 PM

     Is faithfulness a dead concept?  We see people on the “Maury show,” “Jerry Springer Show,” and “Steve Wilkos Show;” it kind of makes you wonder-are there any faithful people left in the world?  We live in a world where marriage is no longer off limits and a ring on your finger has very little meaning except a pretty piece of jewelry.  You can tell someone that you’re married and their reply is, ‘what does that have to do with me?’  Betrayal of trust is an open concept that lovers don’t mind openly sharing to live audiences without hesitation.  They don’t care that it leaves their lovers to live with the humiliation and shame of knowing that the whole world is now aware of that betrayal.  Maybe that’s what the intent really is, to inflict harm; as much harm as possible before letting go of a lost or broken relationship. 

     I don’t think that you should need a ring to honor a promise of faithfulness.  Once you say that we’re together and in “a relationship” faithfulness should be a standard thing.  It comes with the title of “togetherness.”  You know when you start saying those “we” words or our; our apartment, our kids, our car, or we’re going, we’re doing, etc…  The problem is that most people don’t really know what a relationship is or the line has yet to be defined on the relationship. 

     I think that in the beginning of any relationship there should be an understanding; we’re just sex, or we’re exclusive, and we’re a couple.  Unfortunately, most people forget to establish these simple guidelines that eventually lead to painstaking revelations later on.  He says, “We were never in a relationship,” because to him it was just sex.  She says that “We were in a relationship for a year and a half.” This sort of thing happens all the time but can simple be avoided by having a one minute discussion that starts with, “are we in a relationship or is this just sex?”  Can you see how easy that was and it can so keep you from falling for Mr. or Mrs. Wrong.

    What do you think?  Is faithfulness forever gone?  I mean really think about it; have you ever cheated on a relationship because if you have you’ve answered my question.  As always, I’m Lady PJ, much love to you all.

#faithfulness; #LadyPJ; #PhilessaHooks; #relationship; #SimpleEOL;#PhilessaJenkins

The Simple things by Lady PJ

The Simple Things

By Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

Saturday, November 01, 2014

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     This year is almost over and soon we all will be yelling from the rooftop, “Happy New Year,” and saying goodbye to the old 2014.  I hope it’s been a happy and blessed year for you; as for me it’s been a very enlightening year.  I always like to look back at the year and see the things I’ve learned, what I’ve accomplished, the friends I’ve made, the things I’ve changed, and the things I’ve lost (and was forced to say goodbye to).

     I can truly say that I’ve kept my real friends close to my heart, I’ve built a few blogs, I’ve learned some html coding, I’ve read a few books, discovered some of my limitations, mourned for some of my losses, and rediscovered my faith in God is still alive and well in me.  Even though I’ve been sick I still feel blessed because no matter my situation there’s always someone that has it worse and I pray for them.

     For now I look forward to sharing the holidays with my family, laughing at a few corny jokes, dancing to the oldies, chilling out with my favorite artist (Billie Holiday) playing on the computer, working on my blogs, writing a few songs, and loving to my heart’s content.  It’s not extravagant at all but very simple I know but “what a life?”

     Again, I’m your girl Lady PJ and I’m asking you to find the simple things in life to enjoy; you may find that they mean a lot more to you than you think.

#TheSimpleThings; #LadyPJ; #PhilessaJenkins; #PhilessaHooks; #TheSimpleEssenceOfLiving

Chris Tucker is coming to Mobile, Alabama

Chris Tucker is coming to Mobile, Alabama

Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

All Rights Reserved

10/31/2014

     American Actor and Comedian, Chris Tucker, will be performing live at the Civic Center in Mobile Alabama on November 8, 2014.  His performance has gotten very good reviews, on-line, from the audience and I think it’s a must see for anyone that loves comedy.  You can join him on Google + at the following link to find out what he’s doing and where he’s performing next:  https://plus.google.com/116525969499682780878/posts/gqmGBiqE5Wc.

     He’s acted in movies such as Friday and Rush Hour, plus he’s done stand-up comedy for Def Comedy Jam in the 1990’s.  I completely loved him as Detective James Carter; the man has mad skills.  It doesn't hurt that he’s cute and funny; nice combination!  He’s a native of Atlanta Georgia -born August 31, 1971- and he has one child; a son.

     This is what’s happening in our neck of the woods and if you don’t want to stay home November 8^th, 2014 and be bored go get your laugh on at the Mobile Civic Center in Mobile Alabama.  Tickets can be purchased on-line at Ticketmasters:  http://www.ticketmaster.com/Chris-Tucker-tickets/artist/985154. 

     If you would like to know more about Christopher Tucker please go to the following link http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chris_Tucker because information is power; as always keep informed.  I’m your girl, Lady PJ, much love!

#MobileCivicCenter; #ChrisTucker; #LadyPJ; #PhilessaHooksJenkins; #TheSimpleEssenceOfLiving; #ChristopherTucker; #BlackComedian

Quote from Mary Tyler Moore

Quote from Mary Tyler Moore
Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins
AKA Lady PJ
10/28/2014
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     I thought I would share a quote with you that a friend gave to me.

                    "Pain nourishes courage, you can't be brave if you've only had 
                                         wonderful things happen to you." 
                                                   Mary Tyler Moore

     I encourage you to think of this quote the next time you're in pain and remember to be brave.  I know how difficult that can be but what choice do you really have?  I've asked myself that question many times; since I've been living with fibromyalgia.  I too tell myself to be brave and quite often mind you because I live in a constant state of pain.  I manage my pain by finding different ways to enjoy life and I try to laugh often.  I encourage you to do the same.  Much love to you all, as always I'm Lady PJ.

P.S.  Be Brave!

Silent Streets...

Silent Streets…

Written by Lady PJ aka Philessa Hooks Jenkins

10/16/2014 10:22:03 AM

Copyright 2014

All Rights Reserved

By Emerson Dukes All Rights Reserved

     I believe that something’s are almost impossible to put to words, and the loss of a child is one of those things.  Our community is still reeling over the loss of 8 year old Hiawayi Robinson; the little girl that didn't have the opportunity to make it to her ninth birthday party. 

     We (this community) look at her pictures and we see our child smiling back at us; our little girl with attitude, charm, innocence, and beauty.

      Now we’re all looking for answers from the Prichard Police Department and they in turn are silent.  It’s as if the case has gone cold before it even got started.  Why aren't the streets talking?  It talks any other time!  Why now is it silent? 

     Case in point; why did Hiawayi leave her home to go to a cousin’s house to get money from her Dad?  Why didn't he (her Dad) go take the money to her; where she was -at the time?  She was an eight year old child!  Plus, who was she going to the store with and who gave her the four dollars?  Did the Cops secure the money from the till just-in-case the ones were still in the store; a valuable piece of evidence may I add (if they did their job). 

     What I’d really like to know; “Is the father a suspect in this case?”  In light of recent events with these Father’s (Donald C. Spirit and Timothy Roy Jones Jr.) killing their children; I’d say it wouldn't be far-fetched to label him one; a suspect.  Who else knew she wanted to go to the store and get some candy?  Hum! Was there an insurance policy on Hiawayi and who benefits; sometimes it’s easier just to follow the money?

      I saw on the news where the Police department raided his (her father) home and the home of his current girlfriend but was it enough?  I’ll tell you what!  I don’t believe in this drug deal gone wrong theory.  No drug dealer is going to purposefully bring that much heat and attention to their activities by killing an eight year old child. 

     But wait!  Is it just me or has the Mother been acting sort of odd?  I don’t recall one time during any of her interviews or time on camera that she actually asked for the killer to be caught or asked for justice for her child.

     I’m just saying and if I’m wrong can someone please correct me.  I just feel like I want to see some anger from her.  Her child was murdered and most of the time I see her on the news smiling.  I would be screaming for justice on the rooftop of my house for my child and nobody would be able to shut me up.  How can she obtain such joy and peace inside after such a tragedy?

     There are answers out there people but I believe the cops need to do a better job to find them.  I also believe that some of you can probably help; awaken these silent streets!  We need justice for Hiawayi.

     This is your girl, Lady PJ, much love and peace.

Who are you?

Who Are you?
written by Lady PJ
aka Philessa Hooks Jenkins
All Rights Reserved 2014
9/14/2014

    I want to talk about love; more specifically "the love of self."  It's essential that you know how important it is to love but there's no love more important than the love of self.  It's like water to the earth for without this simple element one will eventually wither and die inside just like a flower without water.
     How then do you love yourself?  Such a simple question.  I'd love to say to you that this answer is simple but the answer can be very complex if you don't know what love is.  Love is patients, it's kindness, it's compassion, it's accepting, and it's understanding.  Love has no hangups, no exceptions, no limits, no rules, and no regulations.  It needs not words, nor guidance.  It just needs to be!  I am love.  Who are you?
     Learn to love yourself today by being patient, accepting, understanding, and showing kindness and compassion; without limits, hangups, rules, regulations, or exceptions.  Love you for who you are, the way you are, right now at this very moment.  You need no words nor any guidance, just be!
     I'm Lady PJ.  Much love to you all and have a blessed day.

Another Funeral by Lady PJ

Another Funeral

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

All Rights Reserved

Monday, June 16, 2014

     I had another funeral to go to this weekend.  It feels, to me, like I’m going to a funeral every year and it’s always someone that’s lived seventy years or more; this time it was my Great Aunt Willie Mae.  I recall just a few months ago sitting on the porch with her at her home in Marion Junction Alabama watching the birds as they flew by.  She was naming the birds for me and I sat there amazed at the fact that we both enjoyed just sitting there watching the birds fly by.  It was such a calm and peaceful moment for me.  I’m glad we shared that moment.  It’s a very nice memory.

     My Mom and I drove up there to put flowers on my Grandmother’s grave for her birthday and now, some three months later, we’re saying goodbye to Aunt Willie Mae.  The craziest thing is my Grandmother passed away two years to the day we buried my Aunt, June 14. 

     I don’t think it got real to me until they lowered her casket in the ground, that’s really the time when it hit me… her ending is final.  She was the last link to my Grandfather’s hometown and the last link to my Grandmother because they were such good friends; now if I go back there it would be to visit graves.  How sad is that?

     I sat in the church for about fifteen minutes or more and the lives of my loved ones flashed right in front of me; the times I shared with my Great Grandmother before she passed and her burial at the Moore family cemetery, the times we drove up there when I was a child to visit the house on the hill where my Uncle Berry and Aunt Willie Mae lived, and the times I sat in church after church saying goodbye to someone I loved one last time.  It made me realize how fleeting life really is and that eventually someone will one day say their goodbye’s to me.  Hopefully that’s a really long time from now.  I’m just saying!  Much love to you all, Lady PJ.

My KeeKee is a college Graduate!

My KeeKee is a college Graduate!

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

     I went to Morrow Georgia last week to see my step-daughter (I call her KeeKee) graduate from Clayton State University.  It stormed on the way there mind you; I had a very rough drive but I was determined to get there.  I remember thinking, “it would rain… and I hope this isn’t a hurricane.” Just my thought process going “to the left” again; but then again I live in the South and hurricanes are a possibility.

     Of course, I wouldn’t have missed that day, her day, for anything in the world.  I can’t tell you how amazing it felt to see this child that I helped to raise walk across the stage.  She was all smiles, dressed in her graduation gear; blue with a bit of an artistic flare (black and white stripes) on the cap.  I took plenty of pictures.  The whole family did the graduation cheers, screams, and waves.  As I sat there in my chair her whole life flashed before me; I remember seeing her as a baby, then the first day of school, and the day I had to give her that last spanking.  Yes, I remembered that!  What can I say, “It was a sentimental moment.”

     I shed a few tears, of course I didn’t let anybody see it but it was a teary moment none-the-less.  It was like seeing her go off to school (Elementary School) for the first time.  I felt so proud of her.  She did it!  She graduated college and I got to see that accomplishment; her accomplishment.  My mind is now thinking of the next big challenge; a new job, marriage, maybe kids.

     I took a deep breath of relief, okay… maybe a few deep breaths!  My child is an amazing woman with a good head on her shoulder; which means that I can stop worrying about her… so much.  She has a direction she’s going and she has goals that she set for herself.  She’s already knocked down one wall so why not sledgehammer the next?  

     I can only hope that I gave her a solid foundation to build her life from because that’s important.  I hope and pray that I taught her to be wise and patient, loving and compassionate, strong and determined yet yielding when the time comes.  Most importantly, I hope she knows how much I love and adore her.   Enough muss for a day already; love you all!

Lady PJ

My Review: "Super Soul Sunday"

My Review: “Super Soul Sunday”

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

4/21/2014 4:01:30 PM

     There was a time in our not so distant history when the old taught the young; knowledge that was passed down from generation to generation on how to live life.  It amazes me to this day that we’ve lost touch with that very crucial aspect or essence of who we are as a people.

     Our children are now forced to seek that knowledge, good or bad, from “the streets.”  Yet, we wonder why this generation of young adults is so lost; many are now going to prison at an alarming rate for crimes against humanity (drug trafficking, shooting up the neighborhood, breaking into the neighbor’s house, identity theft, and the list goes on…). 

     To me, “Super Soul Sunday” is that much needed show for people who are seeking the joy of living life in its simplest form.  I for one am thrilled that Ms. Oprah Winfrey has decided to do this type of show on her network (OWN channel 189) and I really do encourage you to watch it on Sunday.  I promise you it will enrich and enlighten your soul; plus there’s the possibility that this show will answer some of those questions you have in your head that nobody has been able to answer.

     To me true knowledge is not obtained unless you first seek it because if you obtain knowledge without reason it has no purpose to you; at the moment it has no value.

     It’s my strong belief that Oprah Winfrey’s show “Super Soul Sunday” is at best a starting point for getting back to the basics of life and the essence of who we are as a people in our communities.  I imagine that if you and I take small steps in the right direction we can make big strides towards keeping our children safe, obtaining peace (with self and in our homes), finding and maintaining balance (work and life), and finding that road to happiness that we all eventually look for.  First we must find our truth and learn to make peace with it; in essence we must conquer the monsters in our own closets.  How do we do that you say?  We learn.

     I’m thrilled that Ms. Winfrey is on this personal journey and I can’t wait to see where she takes the show because right now her only choice is to come down off the mountain; if she wants to reconnect with her fans.  I’ll be cheering her on from the sidelines and it’s my hope that you will too.  I just think that anyone that’s willing to teach you how to live life better through peace and harmony with self is pretty damn amazing in my book.  There you have it!  I said it, and I’m an Oprah fan; now the world is truly changing.  I’m so laughing at myself right now.  

#Adyashantis, #LadyPJReview, #LadyPJ

Words Of Wisdom

Words Of wisdom

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

aka Lady PJ

April 19, 2014

If we let fear control our lives, we cease to live.  We choose to kill off parts of ourselves; a slow death.  

If we see only the wrong, we are blind to the good that surrounds us.  Be mindful of all the good things that surround you and learn to appreciate them.

When we live in the world of what ifs, the now slowly ceases to exist.  Instead we reside in a world that we create in our minds, a world of fantasy.

Awareness is the key to change and hope is the door you should walk towards.  Too many times we walk away from the things we want the most.

Today is a new day and you can make your life different by living it differently.  Be aware that your happiness is in your control.

These are words of wisdom by Lady PJ.

#LadyPJ, #wordsofwisdom

Questioning life?

 Questioning life?

Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

Thursday, April 17, 2014

    A friend of mine is going through a very rough time and is questioning her life.  I think at some point we all come to this very unsettling question; we all must think what if we did it different?  My thought to her was to not linger on what cannot be changed. You remember the serenity prayer?  It reads…

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

     Boy, is this an easy thing to say but then we all at some point or another take a look backwards at where we've been.  Unfortunately, the end result is always, "it cannot be changed."  I’ve been doing that myself recently and talking to her really made me realize my mistake. 

     Don't dwell on what you did or did not do because in actuality it doesn't really matter what you didn't do or what you did because it's all in the past.  If you want to change your life then you can only change it in the present, the now. It has taken me a really long time to come to that conclusion.  I know!

     I’m a very reflective person and I like to sit down and think things over before coming to an enlightened conclusion.  I exhaust all other possibilities because the options can sometimes be infinite.  In the end I always try to find a solution that I can live with today as well as tomorrow.  It always fits in with my personality and my character, but I’m not always right.  I’m wise enough to know this and accept it.

     When I want to change something in my life that displeases me, I just change it.  I do what I can and I try not to worry so much about what I cannot do.  There's this saying that, “A steady horse can win the race if he keeps a steady pace."

     Figure out what you want from life and set a course to get there and remember this is your life.  If you don't get to where you want to be in life at least enjoy the ride knowing that you gave your all then in the end that knowledge should give you peace.  I just think that it’s useless to beat yourself up over something you have no control over and no matter how much you go through it the end result will be the same.

     If you too are questioning your life; I’m saying enjoy your present but always plan for your future and find a way to let your past go.  It’s your girl, Lady PJ, saying “much love to all of you and enjoy your weekend by doing something different for a change.” 

    

#questioninglife, #lifelessons, #lifemistakes, #yourpath

Fighter's fight!

Fighter's Fight!

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

AKA Lady PJ

All Rights Reserved

April 08, 2014

   Sometimes pain can hit you so hard and you feel like you can't breathe or you can't make it through one more storm.  I've been there; just ready to give up and something inside me kept on saying "you're a fighter and fighter's fight." You can't have faith and say that, "you believe you can get through anything," if you've never been through nothing.  A friend of mine sings this song “I been through the storm and rain, I don’t want to cry no more,” and so many of us feel this way; so much so that we avoid the storm instead of going through it.

     We always think that life should be easy but what if it's not?  We don't just give up the fight, because our true self is born within the contents of each and every storm.  We're prepared, through the trials and tribulations in our lives, for the biggest storms so that when they hit we make it through.  You can't make it through the biggest storms (the deaths, broken marriages, loss of a limb) if you've been defeated in the hard rains.  

     If you're going through a storm tell yourself right now that I will get through this too because it will pass just like all the storms before it.  It might take time and it may seem like you won’t make it, but have faith and believe that God is protecting you through this whole thing.

     Gods' blessings endure, he has not left you or forsaken you but you have to understand that your life is your own to live; it's your choice.  You can choose to stay where you are right now, in all that hurt, in all that anger, in all that pain, or you can choose to free yourself.  Fighter's fight!

     Much love to you all, as always, I'm your girl Lady PJ.

#fightersfight, #ladypj, #thesimpleessenceofliving

My Journey

My Journey

By Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

4/6/2014 1:07:00 PM

“You cannot change anyone else but you can change your response to them;

the only thing you can really change is you.”

     I started my spiritual journey about five years ago and it took me places that I never thought I’d go; from sadness, to pain, to anger, to joy, to hostility, to peace, and on and on.  What I realized in the process is life will take you through many changes but your ending is ultimately up to you and it’s determined by the way you live your life today. 

     I work every day on self-forgiveness and it’s one of the hardest things for me.  I had to realize that my life has turned out the way it has because of the choices I made; not anyone else (My choices).   I think this was the first step to my healing, realizing the part I played in my life, because it’s a process.  Then I had to turn around and forgive myself for those things that I’ve been blaming myself for unconsciously.  The trick is to realize that you cannot take responsibility for other peoples mistakes; just your own.

If you truly want to fix yourself you have to go through the storm, and every now and then a few hurricanes!   

     How can you change a wrong unless you know what it is?  This is my truth and if I want my life to be better than what it is today I have to stop lying to myself.  I made the decision to work on fixing me and finding my joy again.  It has been a rough battle but I think I’m winning because I’m determined to not fail myself.    

     My name is Philessa Hooks Jenkins and this is my journey, come along!

#LadyPJ, #MyJourney, #thesimpleessenceoflife

Take a mental picture

Take a mental picture

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

4/3/2014 10:25 PM

    Have you ever just sat outside and listened to the world around you?  I love to listen to the birds, especially when they're talking to each other.  It’s amazing to hear them communicate backwards and forth.  

     I love to look at all the flowers and a time or two I like to just touch the petals but mostly I take in all the bright colors and the smells with intense pleasure.  It's my way of becoming one with all that's around me.  You have to learn to appreciate God’s gift because it keeps on giving day after day.

     I try to accept my scenery as it is and I don't try to change it because then I've taken away its beauty.  My purpose is to capture that beauty and keep it in this place where I can pull it up when I need it the most.  Whenever I feel lost I come back to it and it’s my safe haven, in a crazy kind of way.  It’s like when you get lost in your car; you ride around looking for a familiar place or a sign to direct you.  The same can be true if you get lost mentally and can’t find your way.  In essence you have this mental picture that’s pleasant for which you can draw from.

     When you get to a point in your life where you no longer enjoy the simple every day beauty that surrounds you, just stop!  Take a deep breath and tell yourself that the simple things in life will give you the most joy.  I just have to get to a place to receive it.

     What gets me through my hardest times is the belief that God is watching over me and no matter what happens I can make it through.  If you don't have that hope or that belief eventually you will keep falling and you won't get back up again.  I refuse to stay down and I'm praying that you will live with the same courage.

     Go out into the world and capture some wonderful moments that you can pull on when you need them the most; some times that picture is just your children’s smiles. You don't know how much hope can spring from a simple smile.  

     It's your girl, Lady PJ, saying "much love to you all."

Homeless man shot by police

Homeless man shot by police

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

Wednesday, April 02, 2014

     Did you watch the clip on the news that showed what happened in Albuquerque New Mexico last month?  The police shot an unarmed, possibly mentally ill, homeless man in the back several times; that’s how the news described him.   …A homeless man.  He wasn’t described as Mr. such and such who is homeless.  He was defined as a homeless man.  Can you just sit with that for a second or two?

     The rebellious side of me was screaming for revenge.  My thoughts went to put them (the police officers) in front of a firing squad and use them as target practice.  Barbaric you say?  You would be right but what’s the difference between that and what these officers did to this man, James Boyd?  They reduced him to less than human and treated him like dog crap on their shoe.  Then in a pitiful effort to cover their back you hear a few of them screaming they saw a knife; a knife compared to a gun.  Wow!

     What infuriates me the most is that nobody made one effort to save Mr. Boyd’s (this human being) life; not one of them.  One simple cease fire would suffice; just one.  They all stood around and allowed the gunfire to continue as this man (who had rights) laid on the ground; not moving, not fighting, not resisting.  He was shot in the back as he laid there on the ground, pleading. 

     The clip even starts off with one of the officers saying that “If we were in a bar or something I could kill you right now.”  Kill You!  His words not mine.  A man is on the ground begging “please don’t hurt me anymore,” only to be shot again.  Then to humiliate and degrade this man further, they released the dog on him.  Thank God it was all caught on tape!

     Wake up America your value as a human being is dwindling away as you sleep and slumber your rights are slowly being snatched away from you.  You should be outraged!  I know I am.  Make the government do their job and uphold the law and if you don’t like the law change it!  But let’s not allow this type of crime committed by Police Officers, which violate our trust by the way, to go unpunished any further.  Stop taking it because it’s not right.  Just because you have a badge doesn’t mean that you have the right to kill.  This is your girl, Lady PJ, saying “Change doesn’t come unless you do something; that move is yours to make America.

     

My prayer

Lord I pray for a solution

When the problem isn’t clear

I ask then for answers, guidance, and direction

I seek now peace and calm

For my troubled soul is weary

I know in my heart that you will be my guide

Direct my hands and lead me O’ Lord I pray

Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Every life has value

Every life has value

By Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

Wednesday, March 05, 2014

     I was remembering the day my daughter was born and how very fragile I thought she was.  I remember it vividly because that was the day I gave birth to a little human being that I was fully responsible for and it was my job to protect.  A few days ago I was watching the news and a mother put her seven pound newborn baby, a girl, into a white plastic bag and left her precious little girl out in the woods next to her house (http://fox10tv.com/2014/03/01/mom-arrested-in-death-of-newborn-baby).   It’s very hard to think of a mother doing this to her child.  That child didn’t have a name, will never have a future, and she will only be remembered for her past.  It’s crazy to imagine but to her mother she didn’t have value.

     Today on the news a seven year old boy was shot in the head and rushed to the hospital.  That child had a name, “J’Duan,” a family that loved him, a past, but he will never have a future (http://www.wkrg.com/story/24893132/7-year-old-shot-in-mobile).  His mother will wake up tomorrow thinking of his voice, his laughter, his smell, his clothes, his toys, and his seat at the table, that empty seat.  I cannot imagine this pain but we live as though nothing has changed because for us life goes on.  Right now the State of Alabama is trying to push a bill that will allow more guns on the streets; possibly resulting in more lives lost.

     We hear about these events on the news yet we remain unfazed by them or so removed from them that we no longer care.  A child was murdered by her mother and a child was shot in the head, possibly self-inflicted, and we stand unfazed because it happens so much.  We hear these stories now and the sock factor doesn’t really reach us; something is really wrong with this!  Have we devalued life so much that it’s so easy to discard it like trash, are we so far gone that we can’t cry out for justice when we believe that something is unjust? 

     Putting more guns on the streets won’t cure what’s ailing this Country; changing people’s attitude about life will.  Every life has value and no one man is more important than the other.  We have to teach this to our children so they can in turn teach it to their children.  If we make small changes now it will make a big difference latter on in life; every life has value.

From me to you

From Me To You:
     Love yourself today by giving yourself a great big hug from your girl, Lady PJ.  My wish for you, is that you will enjoy life by laughing hard, smiling more, and learning to love by loving.

You Got Dumped by Philessa Hooks Jenkins aka Lady PJ

You Got Dumped

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

Copyright 2/19/2014

     Okay, you got dumped by your boyfriend or girlfriend and you feel lost; now what?  I say, it’s time to just love you and heal.  Heartbreak can be so hard to handle and it really does take a lot out of you; so mourn for a little while and then pick yourself up. 

     How do you pick yourself up? It’s different for everyone. For instance I like to laugh so I usually watch some comedy; that always works for me.  You could throw darts at his or her picture but that would only fuel your flame and build hatred; unless you do it to vent.  It’s like a release then.  The worst thing you could do is keep calling them, or keep going to see them.  I know it hurts but you only look like a lost puppy that nobody wants.  Do you really want to have this kind of image?

     I tell you what you can do, how about writing a goodbye letter to them with all the things they did to you then burning it. It would be like a release party where you’re the only attendant. Hey, you think following them around is better; that makes you the stalker guy or gal.  Yes, you’re now at a different level of pathetic. You got dumped and if you don’t stop following them you could be charged with stalking even cyber stalking.

     While I do understand that you’re hurting you have to understand that you can’t stay there.  You have to get up and live; life goes on. Although, I don’t suggest that you find a new partner yet. You really should take some time for you.  I like to be pampered; so go get your nails done, your hair done, and buy a new outfit or two.  I’m a shoe shopper and yes I have a lot of shoes. Laugh Out Loud! I am the “pick-me-up Queen, Honey!” Pick me up another pair of shoes; sometimes I just make up a reason to go shoe shopping. Enough about me let me get back to the topic!

     Let me just say that in time all sorrow heals or subsides.  You eventually have to realize that this relationship is gone but in time you’ll find a new love; that hopefully will admire and adore you. For now just be yourself, enjoy your life, and appreciate the things you have; like no more drama. I’m your girl, Lady PJ, much love to you all.

      

"Don't play with my heart"

Don't play with my heart!
Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins
aka Lady PJ
All Rights Reserved
2/15/2014

    If I open up my heart to you and I say come in; don't play with my heart.  Ladies you feelin me?  We as woman are like open doors; sometimes we open the door all the way and other times it's just cracked open.  I tend to be quite the "just cracked open type."  Yeah, well I'm overly cautious.
     A lot of my friends are givers; meaning they give all the way (the door is open all the way from the start).  They also tend to be the most hurt when things go awry.  You have to be very careful with givers because you never know how it's going to turn out because in the end they might be the hardest to get rid of.  You know the "I bust the window out your car" type.  Laugh out loud!

     I'm going to say it out loud men and I hope you hear it "don't play with my heart!"  I feel that if you're going to be out there with all types of woman doing this and that then just tell me in the begining that you can't be faithful.  Right, woman?  Hello, just say that your a manwhore.  Yes, be honest for a chance.  It's the new millenium for goodness sakes, some woman are more understanding and they might want to play with you.  I of course am not that type.  I'm very selfish.  I expect my man to be completely about me and nobody else.

     Life is too short to live with a cheater that doesn't respect you or respect himself.  Why hold on to someone like this; just let go and let him be with somebody else or be somebody else's problem. Don't let him "play with your heart."  This is your girl, Lady PJ, enjoying life and loving it.

"Happy Valentine's Day"

     I just want to say, “Happy Valentine’s Day” to all of you from your girl, Lady PJ.  Today is the day to show your love to your special someone and I really hope you put your all into it.  I'm hoping that you remembered to say "happy valentine day."  Personally I believe that you should show your love every day and not just on one day.  Love is so very important for survival; it breathes life.  When you find that special someone you should let them know daily because it keeps the relationship fresh.  Relationships are like flowers they need constant care and nourishment.  Today take the time to honor him/her with flowers and candy or jewelry.  Quite frankly I'm that girl that wants it all.  Yes, I'm greedy.  I want to be showered and pampered; give me a day at the spa.  Listen, flowers, candy, and jewelry in the morning, the spa in the evening, and diner at night.  Laugh out loud!  I want it all.  

     Much love to all of you, this is your girl Lady PJ.  Ladies enjoy your special day.

#Valentineday, #ladypj, #HappyValentineDay

It's Your Day

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

Aka Lady PJ

2/12/2014

“It’s Your Day”

     I always think about picking myself up when I’m down.  I use to think that was a bad thing, always having to pick myself up, but now I know that it means I have the power to endure all things that come my way.  You have that same power within you.  No matter how hard things become, or how tough the road ahead of you gets just push through because you can make it through anything; if you believe.  It may be hard my friend but it’s so worth it.  Every day that you wake up is a chance for you to love, to laugh, to enjoy life, and to live life to the fullest.  You have the power to make your day good.  What a wonderful gift that is right?  I challenge you to say to yourself, “I can make it through anything.”  Say it out loud and believe, then put a big smile on your face because today is your day.  It’s your girl, Lady PJ, saying that I believe in you and now it’s your time to believe in yourself.  Much love to you all.

#endure, #ladypj

"My bag of misdeeds" by Lady PJ

My bag of misdeeds
written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins
aka Lady PJ
2/10/2014

   I thought about my footsteps and the road ahead of me, 

it made me think of all to come and where my life should be.  

I found myself just smiling then a peace came over me.  

Right then the word forgiveness meant so much more to me.  

I held myself real tight and thought of all the wrong.  

My mind sought some kind of reason to explain it all you see, 

and then I began to write; I thought it would set me free.

     I grabbed a bag and wrote forgiveness on one side, 

and my wrongs on the other.  

Then I grabbed some paper and cut them into equal parts.  

I wrote the first thing that came to mind when I thought of my wrongs 

but on the other side I wrote the good things that came of these wrongs.  

The results were an eye opener for me 

because with every misdeed that came my way 

God sent an angle to me.  

Sometimes you don't see the good 

because you're too busy looking at, 

thinking about, or obsessing over the bad.

     I encourage you to do your own bag of misdeeds and concentrate on the good things that came from the bad.  You'll be surprised.  I know I was.

This is your girl, Lady PJ, saying "much love to you all and remember that information is power so be informed."



#LadyPJ, #bagofmisdeeds

Young And Restless fires "Michael Muhney"

written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins

aka Lady PJ

2/10/2014

Young And Restless fires "Michael Muhney"

     How do we move forward when ignorance is the truth we hold to?  It appears that some people are having a hard time dispelling the difference between a real live person and the character they play.  We watch our favorite characters and we become close friends with them even cheering them on when they finally get the upper hand or achieve a much desired goal; like when poor Dorthy was finally able to get her shoes back from the wicked witch of the west thus achieving her goal of going home to Kansas.  Don’t you just love how make believe turns out so well.  It’s complete bliss.  I think I might cry.  Wait, that’s not a tear.

     What tremendous joy we get when our favorite character’s enemy finally gets what’s coming to him/her and our character wins or comes out victorious in the end!  We all love it when Victor Newman defeats Jack Abbott over and over again and again.  Victory!  I tell you I just love how “Madea” gets in and out of jail all the time, that “Madea” is something else.   She can get away with anything and I mean anything.

     Though we love them with our whole heart, sadly, they’re but characters playing a part and that’s all they’ll ever be.  You see those people playing those characters we love so much are very much alive and they’re not at all like the characters they play; they’re just like us… flawed, and imperfect beings that constantly make mistakes.  I know… so disappointing. 

     Some people really need to have a writer to rewrite their life or write it!  If I could write my life out it would be so juicy; like sleeping beauty juicy without it lasting over a year or years (maybe like… two weeks of sleep).  Laugh out loud!  Of course my prince would be especially designed for me.

     Michael Muhney is a real live person but his character is Adam Newman.  Michael Muhney, the person, has been fired from “The Young and The Restless” for inappropriate behavior.  Some people think it’s absurd.  How dare they fire him!  I say, “If Mr. Muhney has in fact done what he’s been accused of (groping the breast of Hunter King) we owe him no praise” and I love the character he played, Adam Newman.   

     Clearly through his actions he’s abused our trust and we cannot allow that to keep going!  I’m saying that firing him was the right thing to do given the circumstance.  I leave you with this and I really hope you think about it; “what if Hunter King was your child, your sister, your niece, or your grandchild,” would you think this “alleged” incident was alright? 

     How about this… let’s stop hailing these people (stars) as model citizens because they’re so called “stars” and start looking at them as flawed human beings; just like us (some times better but sometimes worse).  When you get a bad batch of something you don’t keep it, you throw it out with the trash.

     It’s your girl, Lady PJ saying, “Much love to you all and don't go dumpster diving.” Laugh out loud.

#HunterKing #MichaelMuhney #Youngandtherestless #Ladypj

The Fighting Squirrel by Lady PJ

Written by Philessa Hooks Jenkins
aka Lady PJ
2/8/14
All Rights Reserved
The Fighting Squirrel

     The other day I observed a hunter shooting a squirrel.  He thought the squirrel was down for the count, so he decided to look for more squirrels, thus leaving the one he shot at the bottom of the tree.  That old hunter was confident he had secured his kill; a lot of us are like this you know.  We go counting our eggs and all before they hatch.  I guess to some scrambled eggs are just as good as fried chicken.  Hum!  As I was saying we get greedy thinking that we can always go back and secure our kill and not thinking that something could go wrong with it in the meantime.

     A few minutes later I looked at the bottom of that tree for the squirrel and I noticed that it was gone.  I was going to pick it up and put it in the truck.  Yes dear that little squirrel was desperately climbing up that tree with all the life left inside of him.  Inside I was cheering him on; quietly cheering him on.  I tell you at that moment I was in awe until I realized that no matter how far he goes he's still going to die; only thing is it won't be on somebodies plate.

     Don't you want to be like that squirrel fighting with all it's might to live and enjoy the time you have now?  It's your girl, Lady PJ.  Much love to you all and have a great day.